We’ve all had those moments where we just don’t feel as good about ourselves as we should or want to. Included here are 5 great tips on how to achieve self-confidence.
1. Be Aware of Your Values and Belief System
You ever heard the old saying, “if you don’t stand for something then you’ll fall for anything”? This saying seems especially appropriate for building self-confidence. Know how and why you feel the way you do about certain things and ideas in your life and then stand in those beliefs powerfully.
In my personal experience, there have been people who have said not such kind things about my beliefs and practices. When I realized they were engaging me for their own self-serving reasons to convert, save or warn me of impending doom then I chose to disengage from the conversation by thanking them for their concern and moving on. Why, you might ask? Because they did not converse with genuine care for me or openness to hearing my point of view. The mutual respect just wasn’t there so I choose not to take part. I am very strong in my own convictions just as they are, and I honor them for that. However, continuing the conversation with them only serves their need to argue, speak negatively, and belittle while it fails to serve my belief in compassion, acceptance, and love for others.
2. Positive Affirmations or Afformations
We’ve learned through the study of Psychology “If you hear something enough, you may start to believe it”. This is where affirming to ourselves can jump in and help us. Tell yourself something nice even if you don’t yet believe it!
What’s the difference between an affirmation and an afformation you may ask? An afformation is an affirmation that we are forming, and it’s usually in the form of a question due to the philosophy that our mind will automatically seek to find the answer. So if you don’t believe the statement “You are a kind and loving person.” Then ask yourself instead, “Why am I such a kind and loving person?”. You don’t even have to have the answer yet. Before you know it, your experience will start to show you all the ways you are what you look for in yourself and others.
3. Focus On Your Prior Achievements
The easiest way to build up your confidence is by looking to past accomplishments. It’s so easy because you’ve already gone through the challenging part of thinking, speaking, and doing. Now you just get to sit back and reap the rewards of recalling the memory.
For me personally, it is very rewarding when I read all the testimonials that my past clients have provided on top of my past accomplishments. It really helps me to know that my efforts are not wasted as many people say they are being helped through my services.
4. Do Something Big!
Do something “on purpose” that moves you outside your comfort zone. Stop playing small so you can reap the big rewards that come along with that. Yes, playing “big” can mean the whole world is watching and you may even fail, but I would be shocked if you don’t learn at least one valuable thing from it. That equals Growth!
Some of the most common regrets of the dying are a) living for others’ expectations instead of their own truth and b) not having the courage to express the feelings they experienced in honesty. You don’t want to be that guy or girl!
When you focus and then take action, your confidence levels in your talents and abilities will jump and you will be so proud of yourself for even trying, not to mention succeeding.
5. Meditation and Reiki
I am a huge proponent of meditation and reiki. Many times our energy fields are gummed up with energy that is not serving our highest good. (Many people who live in fear of psychic attack do not realize that this often times comes from the living and not the crossed over).
Meditation is a great way to heal yourself from the “inside out” through connecting with our Creator or just by enjoying the present moment in the stillness. I propose that a few energy healing sessions or even 10 minutes a day of meditation can lead to a drastic change in the way you feel connected to everything around you, including yourself. By opening up, clearing and healing our energy centers and aura’s, then we open ourselves up to being healthy, well-balanced and feeling great about our world, the people around us, and ourselves.
I really hope you have found something insightful in this article that you can use to boost your personal power and good luck being your creative, awesome self!